There’s No Me In Break Ups
Sometimes, we blame ourselves for breakups. We try to find reasons why we believe we caused the breakup and often fill our minds with phrases like "I wasn’t pretty/handsome enough," or "I didn’t have enough money." If you didn’t do anything wrong, don’t blame yourself for a breakup!
People break up because a relationship doesn’t work, and not because of superficial things. Trust us when we say a breakup is not caused by your bank balance or because you’re 20 reps short of a 6-pack. And, if it was, that person is not the person for you!
Negative self-talk is also not productive. After a breakup, steer away from trying to blame yourself for the breakup. While it is good to be reflective and try to figure out what went wrong, remember that it is very unusual for a break up to be one-sided. It takes two!
Don’t blame yourself. Focus objectively on the reasons leading to the breakup. Move forward confidently, taking what you’ve learned from relationships past with you in the future!
- by Broken Heart Rehab
- posted at 9:17 am
- November 3, 2010