Broken Heart Rehab

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2009 showed that even celebrities are not immune to a broken heart. Here are the top ten celebrity breakups of 2009:

1. Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins So sad. Can’t believe this long standing power couple split.
2. Robyn and Mel Gibson Thought these two would last. She put up with lots of his crap and still stayed. I’m sure their attorneys made out like bandits during this divorce.
3. Rosie O’ Donnell and Kelli Carpenter These two seemed to be a very happy couple. Proves that you never know what goes on behind closed doors.
4. James Van Der Beek and Heather McComb We here at BHR love us some Dawson. But I guess Heather decided that Dawson should have ended up with Joey, not her.
5. Avril Lavigne and Deryck Whibley These two young rockers were very cute together. Unfortunately, their puppy love did not last.
6. Billy Joel and Katie Lee These two were the couple that wanted to prove that a dramatic age difference does not matter. Only they know what ultimately ended their relationship, but we know that Billy Joel will be Movin’ Out.
7. LeAnn Rimes and Dean Sheremet Amidst allegations that LeAnn was seeing Eddie Cibrian, these two finally called it quits. Dean filed for divorce. Our heart goes out to Dean.
8. Jimmy Kimmel and Sarah Silverman These two comics called it off after 5 long years of being together. We were hoping for a little comic-genius offspring but alas, no such luck.
9. Chris Evert and Greg Norman The two famous athletes (her-tennis and him-golf) decided that 15 months was long enough to be married and separated. Chris will have to find a new doubles partner.
10. Kate and John Gosselin ‘Nuff said

Folks, it is not called a broken heart for nothing. It actually hurts. It just goes to show you how much your emotions can affect your health. It is not just your imagination. Your sadness can manifest into all kinds of health problems and you definitely do not want that to happen. You may feel like you want to crawl into a hole and never come back out but trust me, if you hang in there and ride out the storm then one day you will want to come out.

It’s like yin and yang. There is sadness and there is happiness. Unfortunately, you cannot have one without the other. Now, I’m a glass half full girl. I believe there is a lot more happiness in the world, you just have to look for it. It takes more effort to find all of the good things in life because bad things seem to permeate a lot of people’s thoughts. And they like to spread their misery. But you have to look for the good. Look for the positive people. Of course, there are times when you will be sad and you need to grieve. But you need to let it all out and let it go. Sitting in grief is not pretty and is not healthy. The reason we write these posts is to let you know you are not alone. And you will get through. It just takes time to mend a broken heart.

Getting over an ex is hard. Some people turn to alcohol, food, or drugs. Other people turn to the internet. Indeed, the internet has become somewhat of a quiet enabler for those who want to stalk their exes after a breakup. With unabridged access to every intimate aspect of your ex’s life, it’s hard to resist seeing your ex just a mouse click away. Want to know whether his mood is “ninja” or “cantankerous”? Just log onto Myspace. Want to know whether his relationship status is “complicated” with that chic he was buying shots for at the bar last week? Just log onto Facebook. Want to know if his employer fired him yet for looking at porn during his lunch break? Check out LinkedIn. You get the picture.

Even if your conscience is your only witness, internet stalking your ex is a bad idea. Like the throngs of other bachelors on the prowl, your ex has probably posted a studly picture of himself aimed at enticing his female viewers to “poke” him on one of the popular social networking sites. His profile details are, of course, a snapshot of how wonderful he is currently doing after the breakup (mood: “stoked”; status: “single”), and likely includes several “wall posts” from one of his 36 “top friends.” Don’t forget his status update, where you’ll likely find that he is traveling to Vegas, or just fucked a playmate, or something equally infuriating as you sit at home watching reruns of Project Runway. After all, what better way for him to let the world know that he’s okay after the break up than to advertise it online to the world!

This is the pitfall of internet stalking. You’re going to see things you don’t want to see (read: your ex doing fabulously post-breakup). If your ex has succeeded in posting a salacious social resume online, you’re also likely to have the same feelings you would as if you were still in the relationship if you haven’t healed (e.g. jealously, anger, disappointment). This is a dangerous and unproductive behavior.

We agree with the experts who say that one of the best ways to get over an ex is to keep your distance. This means no drunk dialing, no sex, no “talking things out” just one more time, and most importantly, no internet stalking. Now, we hope you can see why.

So the next time you get the itch to see whether your ex uploaded pictures from a bacchanalian revelry or if he changed his status from “single” to “in a relationship,” channel that energy into something productive – like going onto bluefly.com and purchasing a dress that will bring out your inner sexy bitch.

It is scientifically proven that exercise is not only good for your heart cardiovascularly but also mentally. When you are heartbroken, you want to feel good and, of course, you want to look good! Since there is no magic pill (damn, they need to invent one of those), go exercise. But you “don’t feel like it”, I know staying in bed and crying and watching depressing movies sounds so much better, that is when you need to go out and work up a sweat! And don’t even think about grabbing the cookies and ice cream and booze while you watch these sappy heart wrenching movies, they won’t help. All these foods/drinks will do is make you lethargic and cause you to pack on the pounds. And that won’t show, oh what’s his face, what a big mistake that he made by breaking up with you. Instead, show him by becoming a more confident, healthy and sexier you by exercising.

When my ex dumped me, the only thing that made me feel better was to exercise. I would head to the gym and put on my Ipod and listen to songs like Chris Daughtry’s “Over You” and Beyonce’s “Irreplaceable”. Not only are they great for pushing your heart rate, they also gave me a “He’ll be sorry he left me” attitude. Especially after I whipped myself into super woman shape by going to the gym. I would smile when songs came on that spoke to me and assured me that “I would survive”, thanks Gloria Gaynor. It was an hour a day that I felt good about myself and I felt like I was invincible. I had a great, “fuck you” attitude about my ex when I was running on the treadmill. It is truly what got me through the dark days. I could not have made it through if I had stayed in bed and ate the whole day long. All that would have accomplished would be pounds gained and my self-esteem would have plummeted. Now, I’m not a gym rat. I hate the gym. But once I got there and I was sweating and my heart was pounding and I turned on my breakup mix (not the sappy one but the “you’ll be sorry” one), I was good to go. The time flew by.

Now, how does this apply to you? All you have to do is decide, right here and now, that you are going to use those sweatpants you have been living in to do what they are intended for you to do-sweat! That’s right, get up-NOW! Go outside or go to the gym and put one foot in front of the other, quickly! Make sure you are working up a sweat. Take out your anger and frustration on your walk/run. Bring some music that will make you feel good. Sweat for at least 30 minutes. Do more when you feel like it. And there will be days you feel like it. It becomes addicting and you want to feel good. So you will workout longer. And there are days that you will need to rest, but make those days few and far in-between. Aim to workout at least 3-5 days a week. You don’t need a gym membership, you can just walk outdoors. Start sweating that man right out of your life and in no time your heart will thank you for it in more ways than one. And by the end I know that you will survive and your hot self will look kick ass in a mini-skirt when you start dating a hotter, better guy that you met on a run!