Broken Heart Rehab

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One day your up, one day your down. It is common to experience a roller coaster of emotions while going through a break up. Some days, I feel great being single! I love the freedom. I enjoy spending more time with my friends and not answering to anybody. I even enjoy doing things and going places alone! But there are other days that are different. Some days, I feel sad and lonely, and a bit lost.

This is common for people who are living solo. Not having a constant companion to bounce ideas and stories off of can be strange, especially if you have been used to doing that in the past. But here at BHR, we have a few ways to help ease those not-so-great days.

1. Start a “Good Day” journal.

Writing down your feelings when you are sad is easy. How about keeping a journal only for the days that you feel good? When you are happy and feeling great about your single life, write it down. Document what you love about it. When you are having sad day, reference your “Good Day” journal. Remind yourself of your positive emotions.

2. Challenge your thoughts.

It is easy to get into a mental routine. This means to repeat the same thoughts and emotions over and over. Next time you find yourself going to the same negative thought that you have been having for a long time, challenge it with a different thought. Make these thoughts mirrors, and completely reverse your feeling on it.

3. Adopt a pet.

If you do not have a pet, now may be a great time to get one. Animals bring much life into a home, and are wonderful companions! Your local shelter will have many animals that are in need of a good home, and knowing that you rescued a life will bring much joy to your heart! If you feel you are not ready for the responsibility of an animal, plants and flowers in your home will bring life into it.

4. Create a list of your perfect mate.

Make a list of ten things that you want out of a partner. Be as specific as possible. This list will be your guide. If you begin dating, see how your date matches this list. Do not compromise and stay as true to what you desire as possible.

Being single can be a very exciting time in your life! Know that it is common and ok to have lonely days. But remember; the one thing worse than being alone is wishing that you were alone.

Going through a break up can take it’s toll. You may find yourself
obsessing over details, losing sleep, and just trying to figure "it
all out". This can really bring you down. Here are some tips to take care of your emotional self:

•spend time with others whose company you enjoy
•stay in contact with important people in your life
•treat yourself kindly
•feel proud if yourself
•reread favorite books, review favorite movies
•allow yourself to cry
•find things that make you laugh
•express your outrage constructively
•spend time with your pets and children

Taking care of your emotional self is only one step in healing, but an important one to take.

It is common after a break-up to have a mixture of emotions. Depression can easily creep into your life. One of the things that can be neglected is your physical self. If you feel this relates to you, here are some coping strategies to loving your body!

• 1.  Eat regularly (breakfast, lunch, and dinner)
• 2.  Eat healthfully
• 3.  Exercise and lift weights
• 4.  Play sports
• 5.  Get medical care for prevention
• 6.  Take time off when your sick
• 7.  Get a massage or other body work
• 8.  Do physical activity that is fun
• 9.  Get enough sleep
• 10.  Wear clothes you like
• 11.  Take vacations or day trips
• 12.  Get away from stressful technology such as phones, computers, faxes, pagers

Doing these simple things will make a huge difference in your physical well being. Remember, loving yourself is the best kind of love.

Getting through a broken heart is hard. Regardless of what the loss is, change can be challenging. During this time, it is important to take care of yourself.  Stress more than likely is a big factor at these times. Emotional and mental strain (wracking your brain to make sense of what is happening) is understandable. A healthy diet and exercise is a sure way to alleviate excess stress. But herbs and vitamins to supplement your diet can be helpful during troubled times.  Daily multi-vitamins are always recommended, regardless of crisis or not. Extra omega 3′s and flax are beneficial for mental clarity. An extra dose of vitamin C, not exceeding 1000mg a day will help boost immunity, which tends to suffer during high stress times. And feeling fatigued? Load up on your B’s to help maintain a level mood. 

Herbs are beneficial as well. Mood elevating St. Johns Wort is a wonderful antidote to depression, as well as 400mg of Sam-E (not suggested to take both during the same time and be careful about taking St. Johns Wort if you are on birth control and sexually active-it can negate your birth control). Two doses of vitamin D a day (400mg each) will also do wonders for your sorrows.  Can’t sleep with that racing mind? Melatonin, taken half an hour before bedtime, will ease you to slumber. Chamomile tea is great for bedtime as well. It is relaxing, decaffeinated, and natural.  Take this time to invest in yourself, and love yourself. Your body, mind, and spirit will thank you for it.

**Please consult with your physician prior to taking any vitamins or supplements.