Broken Heart Rehab

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One day your up, one day your down. It is common to experience a roller coaster of emotions while going through a break up. Some days, I feel great being single! I love the freedom. I enjoy spending more time with my friends and not answering to anybody. I even enjoy doing things and going places alone! But there are other days that are different. Some days, I feel sad and lonely, and a bit lost.

This is common for people who are living solo. Not having a constant companion to bounce ideas and stories off of can be strange, especially if you have been used to doing that in the past. But here at BHR, we have a few ways to help ease those not-so-great days.

1. Start a “Good Day” journal.

Writing down your feelings when you are sad is easy. How about keeping a journal only for the days that you feel good? When you are happy and feeling great about your single life, write it down. Document what you love about it. When you are having sad day, reference your “Good Day” journal. Remind yourself of your positive emotions.

2. Challenge your thoughts.

It is easy to get into a mental routine. This means to repeat the same thoughts and emotions over and over. Next time you find yourself going to the same negative thought that you have been having for a long time, challenge it with a different thought. Make these thoughts mirrors, and completely reverse your feeling on it.

3. Adopt a pet.

If you do not have a pet, now may be a great time to get one. Animals bring much life into a home, and are wonderful companions! Your local shelter will have many animals that are in need of a good home, and knowing that you rescued a life will bring much joy to your heart! If you feel you are not ready for the responsibility of an animal, plants and flowers in your home will bring life into it.

4. Create a list of your perfect mate.

Make a list of ten things that you want out of a partner. Be as specific as possible. This list will be your guide. If you begin dating, see how your date matches this list. Do not compromise and stay as true to what you desire as possible.

Being single can be a very exciting time in your life! Know that it is common and ok to have lonely days. But remember; the one thing worse than being alone is wishing that you were alone.

While breaking up with an ex is no fine dining experience, between beaus, it is important to cleanse your dating palate.

So how do you begin?

Start off with light dates to stimulate the palate. Someone smart, who is good company, and who gives you a little ego boost (read: someone less attractive).

It is also important for the palate cleanser to be a nice, drama-free, and down to earth person person. Ask your friends to set you up with that token "nice guy" or "sweet girl" girl in their social circle. This person will be a good reference point in developing a taste of how you should be treated.

Most importantly, do not go out with someone that you lust over or who reminds you of your ex. That would be like tasting a pinot noir and then cleansing your palate with a shot of Jack Daniels. Remember that it’s easier to discover and appreciate new and finer flavors down the road if you clear your senses before getting to the next.