Sometimes you get a gut feeling that something is just not right with your man. What should you do? Listen to your gut! You are usually right on the mark. If there is something “off” about what he is telling you then chances are, he is not being honest. Trust your gut and do a little recon. We don’t suggest you stalk him or put a trace on his phone calls but just be on your toes. If he is a player, he will show his true colors.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you just knew that the other person was full of s*it. And then later on you discovered that you were right. Well, what you were experiencing is your little voice of reason inside your body shouting out that something is just not right. How great would it be if you always trusted yourself!

Now, there are those of us that are worry-warts and please know that that is a different feeling. You have to start to listen intently to your inner voice and you will be able to tell if you are worrying over nothing or if something is truly wrong. It can be hard to tell the difference but start to try.

Players think they are devious and can pull the wool over your eyes but they are wrong. You will know when a man is “playing” you. You just have to listen to your gut for the answer. Trust yourself first, before you ever trust anyone else. You always hold the keys to the truth. Now go out there and use them!

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me three times, I’m with a player. How did you end up here? He seemed like such a nice guy at the beginning. Or was he? He was nice when he called. He was nice when he showed up. He was nice when he remembered your name! Eek!

You never thought you would end up with a player. You are a smart girl with goals. You’ve seen your friends with those guys. You never thought you would be one of those girls, until you were that girl.

We have all been there. Once I dated a guy that borrowed his girlfriend’s car to take me out on a date but I didn’t find out until much later! Ouch! How did I end up there? I’ll tell you how. I missed all of the signs.

Here are some signs to look for:

-He always has excuses. Excuses as to why he couldn’t be somewhere. Excuses for why he was late. Excuses for why he didn’t call. Excuses for why there were pieces of paper with girls’ names and numbers on them.

-He is a smooth talker. Not only did he have excuses but he could say anything so sweetly that you would believe the sky was purple, if he said it was purple.

-He won’t act affectionate in public. He didn’t want anyone to know you were together but used the excuse that he didn’t like PDA. You don’t need a public make-out session that parents with small children would complain about, but you do need your hand held once in awhile.

-He has shaky alibis. He said he was one place but his buddy slips and mentions that your man had been somewhere else.

-He never wants to make firm plans. When you ask him to do something, he always says, “Yeah, that sounds good. We’ll see.” But he never commits to being somewhere until the day of or hours before a date.

-He loves to say he’s a ladies man. He likes to brag to anyone that will listen that women love him. Which really means, he loves the ladies, and not just one.

-He never gives real gifts. All of his gifts look like last minute items that he picked up at 7-11 on his way to see you. You can tell that there is no thought or reasoning behind them. You know that this was not a well-thought out purchase, but a last minute scramble to find something that was “suitable”.

-He has secret conversations. DING, DING, DING! Red flag!! He says that he is talking to his “friends” but he always has to take it outside or in another room away from you.

-People are telling you that he is being unfaithful. Most of the time, if someone is going to put their neck on the line to tell you that your guy is cheating, he probably is.

-You have a bad feeling in your gut. If you have a bad feeling, there probably is some logical reasoning behind it. We have intuition for a reason. It is there to tell us to watch out for danger. So listen to yourself and follow your instinct.

The bottom line is that there are always going to be signs. Players will give off signs and usually more than one. Unless you want your heart broken, stay away. You will not change him. We repeat, YOU WILL NOT CHANGE HIM! And why waste your precious time trying to change someone? There are so many good guys out there. Use your time wisely to find a good guy and then you won’t have to worry about Celine Dion cds and jasmine body lotion is his car. Trust us, good advice!

•Can you forgive the person for what happened?
•Are you and your significant other willing to meet halfway to try to work on overcoming the recent relationship challenge?
•Do you honestly believe that you can move past and accept (without resentment) what happened between you and your significant other?

Remember that one of the benefits of being in a relationship with another person is to feel happy and grow.  If you can’t answer yes to either of the questions above, happiness and growth may me a problem.

If you answered no to any of the questions above, you should spend some time deciding and discussing with your significant other what’s in each of your respective best interests to make up or break up.

Have you caught your significant other getting frisky with someone else? If you answered yes, don’t spend your time carving your name into the leather seats of his or her car (shout out to Carrie Underwood fans!); spend your time figuring out how you’re going to rehab your heart through positive, fun activities that you enjoy!

There are too many eligible daters in this word in this world to waste your time with someone that doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. We don’t mean to get all “Dr. Phil” on you, but, through our own experiences, we know that the best way to heal a broken heart is to put the pieces together yourself.

This recovery period doesn’t involve a detailed analysis of why the person did it. We know why: she or he has no self-control. As much as they blame it on the ah-ah-ah-cohol (we’re full of music references, eh?), you need your own time to regroup and figure out if the person can give you what you want from the relationship. This does not involve asking:

(1) Are you still talking to the person you cheated with?

(2) Why did you cheat?

(3) What did I do wrong?

(4) When did it start?

(5) How many times did you cheat?

These questions are counterproductive, and won’t make you feel better. The only question you should be asking him is when he’s going to take his toothbrush out of your toothbrush holder.