Broken Heart Rehab

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One of our favorite ways to heal a broken heart is through heels.
No, we’re not talking about shoe shopping (though, it is a past time of ours). We’re talking about enlisting your heels and walking!

Walking is a great way to heal a broken heart. Not only is it heart-healthy, but it is a great way to heal the mind through meditation and reflection upon a relationship. It does not (typically)require the endurance running or other “heeling” activities, so it is easy to put on your comfiest shoes and just let your mind and body wander.

Take the time to breathe. Take the time to think. Take the time to reflect. Just take the time for you.

Healing after a break up is not easy. Adopting new rituals and doing things to heal your heart are more important than ever. Using your heels to heal your heart is just one thing that we suggest to help you do that.

One of the toughest things about a break up is breaking the habit. By "the habit", I mean the routines and rituals that are created in a relationship. For example, every Thursday night my ex and I would watch our favorite shows together. Once the relationship bit the dust, Thursdays really sucked. It was one of the many reminders of what we once had and did together.

For a few weeks, I would sulk on Thursdays. I would even watch our shows and cry. But all that did was slow my healing process down. It wasn’t easy, but I created a new ritual for that night. Now, that is my night out with my girlfriends. It took some time, but what was once a painful day became a day I looked forward to.

What old habits are you hanging onto? Even more, do you still partake in them solo for the mere painful reminder? If so, I suggest you replace your old habits with your ex with new ones that are just for you. Do you want even more of a challenge? Then change it to something so different, you won’t even have a trace of your ex in it.

For example, was Monday night "movie night" from your past? Then now it is "bowling night", or "sushi rolling night". Don’t do anything that reminds you of your ex. You actually will start to enjoy your new routine that is custom made for the fabulous new you!

Feeling lonely? Confused? If you have a broken heart, than you probably do. It is ok to feel sad and lost during this time. More than likely you are feeling vulnerable as well.

I know that when I feel this way, there is something I always tend to do. Call the ex. And I don’t mean my recent ex. I am talking about the ex ex! The one from before your last relationship.  Why do I do this? It is not because I want to get back together with them.  It is more like I feel “safe.”  This person already knows me and probably has some feelings. The bottom line? My ego needs a stroking! 

If your ex ex is not in a new relationship and you are up front with your intention (not get back together), than this can be harmless an actually a nice distraction for awhile. But if he or she has moved on, trotting on that territory is not cool and can lead to trouble. 

My advice? If you want some comfort from the ex ex, make sure you are in the same boat with each other. Otherwise, you are bound to paddle backwards.

Nothing is worst than going into a new relationship with the emotional scars of a past breakup on your mind. They can weigh heavy on one’s mind, and even create friction in a new relationship where there should otherwise be none.

Our recommendation to you is "be kind, please rewind."

Here is what we mean…

Before entering into a new relationship, "rewind" your mind to the place you were before times got tough in your past relationship.

Let go of fear, and open your heart to the prospect of connecting with someone new. It is also important to let go of assumptions. In fact, the only assumption that you should make is that your current significant other is not like your ex. Remember that all people handle issues differently, and just because your ex behaved one way does not mean that every person will act in the same manner.

So, next time you find yourself building emotional walls or making assumptions about one’s behavior based your ex, hit stop and rewind. It’s the kind (and fair) thing to do!

2009 showed that even celebrities are not immune to a broken heart. Here are the top ten celebrity breakups of 2009:

1. Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins So sad. Can’t believe this long standing power couple split.
2. Robyn and Mel Gibson Thought these two would last. She put up with lots of his crap and still stayed. I’m sure their attorneys made out like bandits during this divorce.
3. Rosie O’ Donnell and Kelli Carpenter These two seemed to be a very happy couple. Proves that you never know what goes on behind closed doors.
4. James Van Der Beek and Heather McComb We here at BHR love us some Dawson. But I guess Heather decided that Dawson should have ended up with Joey, not her.
5. Avril Lavigne and Deryck Whibley These two young rockers were very cute together. Unfortunately, their puppy love did not last.
6. Billy Joel and Katie Lee These two were the couple that wanted to prove that a dramatic age difference does not matter. Only they know what ultimately ended their relationship, but we know that Billy Joel will be Movin’ Out.
7. LeAnn Rimes and Dean Sheremet Amidst allegations that LeAnn was seeing Eddie Cibrian, these two finally called it quits. Dean filed for divorce. Our heart goes out to Dean.
8. Jimmy Kimmel and Sarah Silverman These two comics called it off after 5 long years of being together. We were hoping for a little comic-genius offspring but alas, no such luck.
9. Chris Evert and Greg Norman The two famous athletes (her-tennis and him-golf) decided that 15 months was long enough to be married and separated. Chris will have to find a new doubles partner.
10. Kate and John Gosselin ‘Nuff said