Men Listen Up: Sucker or Clueless?
There are obvious signs that a woman is being led on, let down, or just plain ignored (usually after a wonderful romp in the bedroom, full of fireworks, so surely he will call!) Women have the luxury of wonderful girlfriends to ooze insecurities to and bounce off any of the famous “what ifs” to. But where does a man turn when in need of guidance? Who will be honest and point out the signs that she is not that into them? Sure, they have beer and buddies. But when it gets down to it, there ARE ways to tell if a woman is after your heart, or simply running from the start.
Usually with men, they are either into a woman or not. Not just sleeping with a woman. That doesn’t count. They either fall hard or not. Any middle ground truly is not enticing enough to keep one around. It’s black and white. Easy enough.
Not so much for a woman. Sure, we fall head over heels for some men. And they will know when this happens. But when we don’t fall hard, and we know you really want us, we sweep you into one of two categories: Sucker or Clueless.
It is not too easy to get the two confused. They are very different. Are you a man after a woman’s heart and she seems to be stringing you along? Chances are you are one of the two. I am here to help you figure out which category (to her) you belong in.
Being a Sucker is in some ways the better of the two. This is because you will be getting plenty of attention. Like, her car broke down and she needs a ride to work. Or, her dog Dolce is stuck at doggy day care and she would really love for you to pick her up while she gets her nails done. I once had a male victim that was such a Sucker that his lady friend convinced him to buy, build, and paint a new fence for her entire yard.
Men love to feel proud and boost their ego, and this usually allows it. Any attention from a female they are fond of makes them feel good. But there is a line that can be crossed. Ask yourself, “Am I being taken advantage of? Does she give me a big hug and kiss on the cheek after I paint her house? Is it strange I never hear from her again until she has another crisis?” If the answer is yes, then you, my friend, have been trapped into the web of an uninterested woman. What she is interested in is your unwavering commitment to do all of her shit that she does not want to handle. My advice on this is to become unavailable and watch how her level of respect for you magically increases.
Now, being Clueless is not as much fun. The ego is deflated like a three day old party balloon, as opposed to being puffed up on the bullshit that the Sucker gets to enjoy. Here is a list of some signs to tell if you are Clueless:
-You call, she never calls you back.
-You send her flowers; she never calls you to thank you.
-You send an e-mail asking her to lunch, she never writes back.
-You send her candy; she eats it, and never calls.
-You sit around wondering if she enjoyed the flowers, candy, e-card with singing teddy bears.
-You wonder because she never called you back. What she did do is make fun of you to all of her friends.
My advice? Stop. Just stop right now. Give the flowers to your mama. This woman does not care, and the longer you waste time on her, the longer you waste your time on everything. Because I know after a few failed attempts you will be scheming something bigger and better to get that attention you have spent way too much money and energy on. In the meantime, look around and notice the lovely faces of other ladies that would be happy to be loved by you.
I don’t mean to be harsh to you amazing men out there, because we women love you! We really do. I am here to protect your heart and pride so you may reserve it for the lady that deserves it (like my rhyme?). I suggest you do not be ashamed if you realize you have been a Sucker or Clueless. Women can be crafty. But if you do have this realization, it is time to change your behavior. Until then, ask yourself if you really should have driven ten miles to bring her that tall skinny mocha chino without whipped cream. That is, of course, after you dropped Dolce off at daycare.
- by Broken Heart Rehab
- posted at 7:25 pm
- April 8, 2009