Broken Heart Rehab

I’m guilty. I tend to typecast by only looking for those prettyboys – you know, the ones with the slick hair, fast car, nice jeans, and million dollar smile? My heart melts (and repeatedly breaks) over these guys.

I think I’ve psyched myself out over the years into thinking this is the only guy I can be attracted to. It’s what I like. It’s what I know. It’s also the reason why I’m perpetually breaking up!

If you’re like me, you need a solution. Instead of treating your mate selection like a job requirements checklist, it’s important to venture out of your comfort zone, especially after a break up. Besides, why would you want to date someone who is the same “guy type” as your ex? It will be nothing more than a painful reminder of the reasons why you loved (notice, that’s in the past tense) that person.

Here’s the scenario. You like bananas. You also like bell peppers. Would you ever eat those two things at the same time? Of course not! The moral of the story is that just because you like two things independent, doesn’t mean you have to find them (or that you will enjoy them) in the same thing.

The same holds true for dating. You like guys who are 6’3. You also like guys with Pete Wenz haircuts. Just because you find a guy who has those two things, doesn’t mean you’ll be happy or that he’s your type. A lot more goes into the dating equation, and you must see the big picture (not just his bulging biceps).

So challenge yourself to break out of the mold. I know it’s tough – you may actually have to look a little deeper or in a different direction, but I promise you that it will be worth it. If you don’t branch out, you’ll never find out what you like and more importantly, what you don’t like.